Info for Allies

I’ve observed harmful behaviour

It can be hard to know how you can support someone that has been affected by domestic abuse, below is a link that will help you spot signs and understand how to support them.

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If a child, young person or adult is in immediate danger, call 999

I think I have done something harmful to someone else

There are things we can relearn to shape us into being better allies. If you think you or someone else may have caused someone harm, there are some steps you can take. Let’s take a look at how to spot unhealthy behaviours and be a better ally.

If you’re not sure whether your behaviour or relationship is abusive, learn about the different types of abusive behaviours.

Well done for coming this far on the site, if you want to take a step further and speak to someone, here are some resources:

Respect Phoneline

Respect Phoneline is a helpline service where you can seek advice on changing harmful behaviour. It can also be accessed by concerned family members and professionals.

Contact them for support by:

Domestic Violence Intervention Project (DVIP)

Domestic Violence Intervention Project (DVIP) runs a violence prevention programme for men who are concerned about their abusive behaviour towards a current or ex-partner, and want to end that harmful behaviour.

Contact them for support by:

Telephone on 020 7633 9181

email at [email protected]

Getting professional and healthy support from someone outside of our circle is one of the most effective ways we can become better for ourselves and others around us.